Blogging with love

April 15, 2015

A survey by the high-tech association BITKOM showed that around nine million Germans are currently using the Internet to find a partner. The internet also serves as a platform for writing about love, sex and tenderness. UNIGLOBALE presents three blogs that are entirely dedicated to the analogue and digital world of emotions.

With heels and heart through student life

Anyone who loves Carry Bradshaw's column "Sex and the City" will also like the blog of the flirt portal 'spotted'. There, young women write about their emotional lives, the last botched date and why you have to love yourself first. Spotted is an app that allows you to find the nice girl in the café or flirt with the guy who is standing at the bar and is just too good-looking to be approached directly. Spotted founder Katrin Gildner came up with the idea for the blog and organizes the emotional ups and downs of the ten 'spotted' bloggers. This also includes Myriam. The intrepid 22-year-old lives in Konstanz, but is currently in Vienna, where she is continuing her studies - German Literature and Gender Studies - as an Erasmus student.

Blogging about doubting yourself and others

Why do you write about the 'falliness' of your own breasts and your relationship with the opposite sex? Myriam wants to take the pressure off other people who want to love and are single. “Hey, my boyfriend broke up, on my last date I poured red wine on his crotch, my booty made my skirt explode - and still everything is wonderful, even if it's not wonderful,” says the student their message together. In her texts she addresses exactly the problems and thoughts that you carry around with you as a person in your early 20s: the eternal doubts about where to go now and how to find a suitable counterpart. Because: Even if the possibilities to meet potential partners are almost endless today, this abundance of opportunities also removes the need to make a decision. There could always be a better candidate around the corner.

“I can’t write THAT!”

Writing and discussing love and sex is still taboo. And Myriam and her 'Heels und Herz' colleagues would like to break this down in their blog. However, when she wanted to write a post about 'threesomes', she stopped. "'Oh no, Myri, you can't write THAT,' I thought," says the student, "but when I think: 'That's not possible, what will my parents say?' – that's usually the moment when I know: 'Yes, you have to write that'."

Dontforgettofallinlovewithyourselffirst

Nastassja's blog title is long, but that's justifiable. After all, life, love and the search for it is a big topic. The student of intercultural communication and French cultural studies has been single for three years; a painful relationship affected her so much that she wanted to share her experiences with others. “It’s really good to know that you’re not alone,” says the 23-year-old. She receives emails from other suffering and love-stricken people who confirm her. Before she started her blog last summer, she was already a 'Heels and Heart' columnist. Your own blog is even more personal. In her posts she reports on her view of her generation, which she cannot understand in many ways. You read about men who see the student from Saarbrücken as just a “piece of meat”, a obsession with beauty and optimization that Nastassja doesn't want to bow to, and also about the longing for one great love.

Vera loves!

How has the internet changed our relationships? What are the implications of being able to track my girlfriend or boyfriend anywhere and at any time via smartphone apps and social networks? Vera explores these questions on her blog. Facebook stalking, porn consumption and studies on online dating – the aspiring journalist not only reports on her personal impressions of the current love affairs of her fellow human beings. She also tests online dating offers or presents 'glitter revenge' for her ex-boyfriend. Her blog started at the same time as her training at the Burda Journalism School, where running a blog is part of the curriculum. It quickly became clear to Vera which direction she wanted to go. Love in the age of the internet has potential. “Many of them are problems that didn't even exist 20 years ago, and we all feel a bit lost,” says the 29-year-old, who studied comparative literature, English and theater studies. She thinks back to the days when there was only a phone at home and wonders what they called Googling before Google. Vera doesn't cry for the analogue times, but rather embraces the digital with a wink.