Looking for youth, offering lifestyle: Dating portals like sugardaters.de bring together so-called sugar babies and sugar daddies. When we look at her small student budget, our author Myriam asks herself: “Could I do that too?”
Sugar daddies don't want to be taken advantage of
When my roommate told me a few months ago that one of her fellow students had just been dropped off at university by her sugar daddy in a discreet yellow Porsche, I had stupidly checked my account balance shortly beforehand. Bad, bad timing! Because while she spoke with slight disgust about how the guy was a plastic surgeon and how his sugar baby trimmed himself up every time, I remembered my weakness for mature, gray-haired guys in their early 40s. Almost forgotten. In the absence of a mature, graying guy in his early 40s, I registered on a dating portal where well-off, experienced men are looking for pretty, entertaining, young women for uncomplicated love affairs.
Some people didn't seem to like the role of Cash Pig, which is why they repeatedly pointed out in messages and profile descriptions that she was a young, pretty, lovable, great, slim, stunning, sophisticated, well-read, funny, charming, tolerant, sex-addicted, understanding woman with huge breasts and a wasp waist - but refuse to play the credit card for them. And on a portal whose profiles primarily provide information like this: annual income, assets, monthly budget for fun, what your perfect evening looks like. Purple maybe. Like the 500 euro note.
Do female students have to sell themselves for their studies?
Most of the men looked unremarkable, a receding hairline here, a few extra pounds there and amidst pictures of yachts and sports cars, I suddenly asked myself the question: Could I sleep with a 60-year-old? Not with the one who is particularly tight, but perhaps with the one whose ass is flabby and whose pubic hair is snow white. I calm myself with the thought that interest in a person only arises from the emotion through which you look at them.
I also checked out the competition. Between one or two beauties there were many fake Louis Vuitton handbags that demanded money for having a vagina and breasts. And many female students. I kept scrolling. Damn many students!
I briefly asked myself whether it was due to the unfair distribution of BAföG or our increasing sexual freedom that so many female students were registered on the site? Do students now have to resort to prostitution to the point of pain to finance their studies?! Or do they just want it?
Unequal “partners”
After all, in addition to togetherness, closeness and a great lifestyle, these relationships are always about money. Ultimately, the sugar daddy usually has the upper hand in this situation: the rent has to be paid. But a sugar daddy can also go a month without having sex with a young lady. She needs him. He just wants her.
When I receive the first messages from potential sugar daddies, it quickly becomes clear to me: What appeals to me about an older man is not just the more in the account, but the hoped-for more in everything: experience, maturity, knowledge. However, a sugar daddy like I want cannot be found on dating sites with poor web design, but in life, in which he has both feet. And the hair on your legs can be mottled gray.
Our columnist Myriam wonders whether “youth versus lifestyle” is a good deal.
